How do you communicate (express) your anger?

 

Anger is a part of everyday life. Subconsciously or consciously, our days are filled with anger and aggression. Many psychological theories on human development focus on the universality of an infant’s struggle with primitive fantasies of guilt, aggression and reparation; these fantasies are said to stem from the core feelings of anger and frustration. Most theories agree that human beings grow up with anger right from the very beginning of their lives.

There's something to be said for having a hey-it's-all-good attitude, but showing a little anger now and then may lower your risks of several killer diseases, reveals a new German study. People who repressed their anger had elevated levels of the stress hormone cortisol and were 31% more likely to suffer from a heart attack, cancer, or high blood pressure. And although genders repress anger differently—women may be more apt to sulk or guilt-trip, while men tend to act out, perhaps by drinking too much, says Deborah Cox, PhD, the author of The Anger Advantage—there are healthy ways to express it that work for all of us:

Use your words: “Translating your anger into words and sharing them with someone you trust is essential for physical and emotional health,” says Dr. Coax. Speak (without guilt-tripping) to the person who’s angering you. “Say something like ‘I feel angry when you laugh at my problems,” and go from there,” says Dr. Cox.

Put it in writing: “Writing a note is a great way for couples to make their anger known to each other if they can’t talk about it without getting defensive,” says Dr. Cox. Research also suggests that journaling about stressful events may help strengthen the immune system and reduce the toll stress takes on the body.

Hit something (not someone): Hitting or screaming into a pillow, instead of erupting at a person, can help stabilize feelings when you’re about to lose it, says Dr. cox. But limit pillow punching to 30 seconds at a time. Hitting the treadmill may help too: walking daily has been shown to calm anger and decrease diastolic blood pressure.

 

So far as I am concerned, when I am angry, I get quiet and leave the place immediately which automatically showcases that I am angry or something is not right with me, because I am very LIVELY and TALKATIVE, and my SILENCE, IN ITSELF,  IS SOMETHING ALARMING FOR ALL. In that quiet period, I just need some ME TIME ALONE (NOBODY TO DISTURB ME) to settle my nerves and analyze the situation pragmatically. Once that “Crucial Angry Moment” is gone, I share my feelings with that person and discuss about the matter with an open heart to assuagethe confusion.

I believe it’s very important to not let the ENMITY/GRUDGE PILE UP OR SNOWBALL  IN OUR HEARTS & THEN EXPLODE LIKE A BOMB/VOLCANO SUDDENLY, instead, as Sir Heavenly John very well said, “Remember – to dissipate heat of the hot tea, we spread the tea in the given saucer when we are in a hurry to drink hot coffee / tea. So, let us leave the scene of provocative situation that is likely to trigger anger to self or to opponent.”

Well! I communicate it openly on constructive basis, navigating its roots to intervene wisely . Let's discuss.I think that " Anger drives people to get Mad"! Truth , consequently learning how to express rage can protect our heart, mind, and health. Here's the right way to do it.  Anger comes along with squashing Emotion, so you should know why and when do you struggle with anger? Many simply stopped experiencing anger as anger since it became depression or frustration, emotions safer to express, others learned to bury feelings from people around them,a way to express your anger is never stay silent , never hide your feeling , you must express your own emotions intelligently  , I think that it is more healthier to express your anger in such way and share your feelings with others. Meanwhile,  hiding anger may be far more costly than losing a relationship: you should not deal with anger indirectly or attempt to suppress it to avoid depression, anxiety, and physical complaints , you must be direct, don't suppressed feelings of any kind during conflicts with any other individual otherwise you would suffer . One way through is finding hiding rage as such anger's shadows are everywhere, If you don't think you are angry, look at other parts of your life, do you have biggest regrets? Are you a perfectionist at work , do you happy with your family, friends and beloved ones? Whom have to be on top of things bring happiness in your life! Are you working hard without ever relaxing? Just try to find out hidden causes of anger , examine its roots to dealwith it honestly and embrace your fury. That's it!

By remaining silent and keeping patience.

You may choose to express your anger constructively by talking to a friend or counselor, addressing a relational issue, working broadly to right society’s wrongs, or finding new solutions to old problems.

I am trying to Calm myself down if i feel anger or frustration that is causing tension, stress or anxiety,

Take deep breaths. Get my anger under control before i start communicating with someone. Otherwise, i may say something i regret. Take deep breaths to clear my head and to initiate my body’s calming response.   am Trying these steps:

• Breathe in for a count of four, hold for a count of four, and exhale for a count of four.
• Make sure i am breathing with my diaphragm rather than with my chest. When you breathe with your diaphragm, your belly extends out (you can feel it with your hand).
• Do this as many times as necessary until you start feeling calmer.

Thanks for the invitation

In my personal life I always have the ability to manage my anger very well even in my career too

I prefer to leave the place in general but I always use the following steps to manage my anger

 

Explore what’s really behind my anger

Recognize anger warning signs and triggers

Learn ways to diffuse anger

Manage anger in the moment

Know when to seek professional help

 

My reaction is depend on the situation and the level of anger, many of time I listen carefully and try to accept the differences and some time I will not react (stop and dont react).

Anger is one letter short of danger.To be effective,i am patient so as not to send the other party the wrong cues.I always dont bring anger into conversations.

At the gym, a one hour workout generally puts me on neutral.

When someone makes me angry I avoid dealing with that person again but sometimes when I like that person I cry and sometimes shout loudly in a closed room...)))) 

My reaction depends on the level of anger, most of the time I try to deal with it calmly specially in a work environment...... Generally, foreigners consider us (Algerian) nervous :), maybe it is true, may be it is just a stereotype.

 

Anger communication should be silent and smile. Its very important to our health and to manage the atmosphere.