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How do you deal with your manager in a state of anger

If your boss angry and you want something from it what you will do

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Question added by Rami AlHawas , HUMAN RESOURCES REPRESENTATIVE , SADARA
Date Posted: 2013/06/09

How do you deal with your manager in a state of anger.
If your boss angry and you want something from it what you will do Is the manager angry most of the time or just occasionally? Keep your professional attitude at all times - this will be difficult but it will benefit you in the end.
Mentally detach yourself from the situation and if you can, politely physically remove yourself from the situation.
Keep your position on the situation very clear, use Why? What? Who? Which? Where? questions to help you answer some questions yourself.
For example : Why is the manager angry - is it related to you or something thing else? If he is angry because of something that has nothing to do with you or is beyond your control? Do not let the anger hinder you from progressing with your work.
What are the options? If you need managers input wait.
Can you look at other ways to deal with matter? Who can you discuss this matter with? If no-one else, wait to have a meeting with manager when you have all your information together and can discuss important points professionally.
Have a few notes written down so that you stick to the point and keep meeting on the work matter.
The manager will also see that you are serious about resolving this matter.
Which way do you want to deal with it? Informal meeting, formal meeting, with someone else present at the meeting? Where are you going to go from here? Again get all the info you need together.
Check all other possible ways of getting the information you need, you may learn something new.

Mansour Abubaker Othman
by Mansour Abubaker Othman , Logistics Officer , STAROIL Operating Company Ltd

i ll hear him and i ll say i ll do what you want , then i ll come back to him when he in good mood to explain his point and my point , then i ll make my point his point and my his point my point to make it opposite then he will understand me and he will be satisfy

Jayson Angelo Castillo
by Jayson Angelo Castillo , IT Systems Administrator , Secure Engineering LLC

First of all, if you are the reason that he is angry then let him cool down for a day and come back the next day and approach him/her and apologize in a professional way.
Otherwise, cool him down and initiate the matters after a day.

amer jayyousi
by amer jayyousi , Business Development Consultant , freelance

if my boss is angry because i havn't  completed my duties in time then i really deserved it.i should take it like a man because i earned his anger,anyway its my doing.

if he is just a bully ,then be the trainer with the red carpet.work him hard to find a reason to get mad again.he will settle soon.

AKIF NADEEM
by AKIF NADEEM , SENIOR MERCHANDISER , Midas Furniture

I will leave him until he will be able to listen and cool down

Allan Caladiao
by Allan Caladiao , Document Controller , Project Build Co

Know the reason of his anger and wait for him to cool down and approach him.

Janet Villanueva Tejares
by Janet Villanueva Tejares , Senior Marketing & Events Assistant , Emirates Diplomatic Academy

Learning to Cope with Manager Aggression Presumably your boss's behaviour is causing you distress or you wouldn't have sought out answers online.
You know in yourself how your boss's behaviour is making you feel and, if you otherwise enjoy your job, you're going to have to change the way your brain reacts in response to your manager's behaviour.
This isn't easy, but it is doable and, sadly, probably the only choice you have - particularly if their behaviour is unlikely to turn against you in a way that puts your job at risk (ie, they're not going to fire you as they rely on your expertise, but their aggressive and rude nature causes you to feel distress regardless).
Your only option, then, is to simply deal with their behaviour by learning not to care, and the only way to do this is by understanding that you're a better person than them.
In fact, in my experience angry managers tend to stop venting their emotions at you once you stop showing any type of response; like parasites, they feed off your fear and it gives them power.
Once you begin to regularly put into practice not showing any emotions, it becomes far easier the next time your boss goes through one of their outbursts.
You'll realise in fact that their behaviour is quite daft, and you may even find it quite amusing as time goes on (don't show this to them though!).
It's a sad state of affairs when the only way to deal with a manager's aggressive behaviour is to secretly find their inferior emotions amusing, but that's life; you're a better person than they are, capable of keeping your emotions in check.
They, on the other hand, have personal issues that need resolving and they have chosen to allow this angry aspect of their personality into the workplace - this is unprofessional and it's definitely not your problem.
As you begin practicing your newfound nonchalance, you may even begin to find their angry outbursts quite endearing, in a strange kind of superior way, as you understand that their behaviour towards you isn't personal; they're just incapable of being nice to anyone.
If your boss is in a relationship then you'll probably pity their other half and wonder how on earth they put up with them! So, the next time your manager throws a tantrum, just remember that it's them who is emotionally inept and not you - you're doing the job they pay you to do, whilst they're still suffering from spoilt child syndrome...
bless their little cottons.

darrell peebles
by darrell peebles , Senior Manager for Quality , Dyncorp Int'l

No right answers without more specifics, but here are some life experience items to consider:1.
Integrity: One boss thought that I had stabbed him in the back, because I disagreed with him publically.
I apologized and explained that my integrity was at risk.
He later accepted this.
I had a similar occurrence with an executive, and I never got that promotion.
Conclusion, stick to your principles if integrity I in question.2.
Respect If he/she is being belligerent, you must judge the level disrespect and report it.
I had to counsel a subordinate manager on hi disrespectful tone towards an employee which worked out both of them.
The manager may not have liked being counseled, but respect is critical3.
Conflict.
If you are both simply in disagreement, remember, all be wrong, and offer that you may be, and would like time to reassess things.
Here introduction of a conflict resolutions facilitator could be helpful, but that is another section.
My experience says the manager will be advised to exhibit a more open and receptive style.

Nasir Muhammad
by Nasir Muhammad , Chief Financial Officer , AL Bustan (FMCG), Abha, Asir, Saudi Arabia

Listen boss word carefully and say yes , when boss complete his speech you talk with boss and discuss about the matter and try to sole with boss advise, also say to boss ( boss i am always follow your instruction) InshaAllah I can handle it boss you don't worry about and after investigation i will report to you.

Giorgio Fornara
by Giorgio Fornara , Automotive Products Group Front Line Operations Manager , STMicroelectronics

Whether is your Manager or friend or whatever acquaintance, be calm, don't react, keep self-control, just listen your counterpart.Great examples are in the Sidney Lumet film "12 Angry Men",1957.

Ahmed Alhoby
by Ahmed Alhoby , مدير الدعم الفني والصيانة والتشغيل , مجمع الطاؤوس الطبي

I will be with him , Angered quiet and without loss of nerves The first step to diffuse the anger And also trying not to take any decision from him

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